Today it was a day of acting for me. I played at least three roles of completely different people. Though I tend to think that I am not hypocritical. (Well, not too much hypocritical, after all let's be honest...) I started thinking about it and remembered one verse my student had written many years ago. Here it is:
This sinful world’s a stage and people are the players
That act, and live and feel with masks on their faces.
And nobody can see what’s on beyond the parts
Until we want to open the door to our hearts.
My masks are always different, they cannot be the same;
I don’t know when I’m natural and I am not to blame.
With parents I am sensitive, obedient and mild,
Considerate, attentive, devoted, very kind.
My brother thinks I’m selfish, capricious and naughty,
But clever, witty, thoughtful, though often very haughty.
For Granny I’m patient, affectionate, discreet.
But am I of the kind she thinks of me, indeed?
My friends hope I’m sociable, reliable, hard-working;
They don’t believe I’m lazy and seldom fond of talking.
I can be calm while suffering and crying I can smile.
I am a puzzle. Really… Who knows? Who am I?..
I think the verse illustrates my point well. How often are we ourselves? Are we bound to always play some roles? Then how many of them do we have? Doesn't it happen that as soon as we start with one role, another appears, then the next one and so the number is always rising? Well, questions, questions... They are becoming typical of this blog...
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I think that's naturally for people to be different. For each person in my life I play my role. For somebody I am a witch for other man I am the modest one. It's normal because our company is too various. And there are different "rules of play" there. Though our main charecteristics are usually the same
This statement is rather controversial…On the one hand it is true. I know that my friends have one opinion about me, boyfriend another, parents think absolutely another way. But at the same time I always try to be myself. I can explain this fact. I suppose that with different people we behave different way. We adapt to situations. In some of them we keep all our emotions inside, in some we allow our self to show the true personality. And more than that with some people we even can discover absolutely unexpected features inside us.
In my opinion, everyone of us has a lot of various roles which he plays throughout all his life. It's natural for human-beings and to my mind it doesn't mean that all of us are hypocrites. On the contrary, each situation in our life is special and it demands special reaction and conduct on the part of people. Very often we face a lot of problems and difficulties and in order to avoid involving others in our troubles we have to play some roles. It happens to us instinctively,
even when we don't want ourselves to act like that. Maybe such kind of reactions on different events are just our means of self-defence..I don't know exactly, it's just one of my points of view..
I absolutely agree with Onyx,exsactly because of lots of problems we have to play, unfortunately more often intentionally.To be honest,I think something wild lives in ourselves,that need to appear,to show something,I mean everyday we like birds in cages have to play roles-with friends,at home,with girlfriend and so on we are so different,we are dipendent on society,on its opinion,we just have no choice.
Everybody is so afraid of the word duplicity,in fact it's normal,we are all different,but in one thing we are very much alike-we are all selfish and cinycal,but not everyone is ready to admit it.
I agree with Onyx - playing different roles in different situations-it's normal behaviour,because we just adapt to a certain state of things. But I don't agree with Raspberry(speaking about the choice) - a person always HAS a choice ! In this respect, we can choose how to behave, because "playing a role" doesn't mean behaving on a certain template. There is only you to decide how and what will do, playing a certain role.
And I'm sure that the best way not to forget who you are, the best way not to loose you true part -is simply to be youself))
I want to agree with a Little_switcher about the choice:
of cource, we always have a choice! nobody forces us put on or take off our so-called masks in different situations! It's always our decision! we don't have to do it! but sometimes it's just easier for us to behave unsincerelly.
I also don't agree, that all of us are selfish! it's false!!! when a man loves anybody, he would do everything to make his lover happy! he doesn't think of himself at all! and what about a woman with a child? a mother could take her own life to protect her child! I'm not sure, that after that we could call such woman selfish..
(it was a comment of enkeli)
Like Shakespeare said, "All the world’s a stage and all the people actors.’”
Every day we wear many different hats...the job of being an alive person means wearing many hats. I think that we all behave in slightly different ways with different people. Perhaps people that know us in totally different ways wouldn’t even recognize us if we were described in those different ways. Maybe we wouldn’t also...I don't think this mean being phony.
Guys,I think you don't quit right understand my idea of the choice,-ofcause we have it but sometimes the situalion is so comlicated that it makes us do absolutely another things we are used to do and you have to play the role
I think it's awful that all of you agree that it's only normal that we play roles. It sounds So phony that I really want to cry! I think that our CHOICE is to choose NOT to play. That is the only right cariant.
Please, don't think that I don't play these phony roles, but I don't think it's right. And I disagree with Little_Switcher that we can remain who we really are if we play. I think if and when we play - every time we lose a part of us, and become somebody very deffrerent. You just have to admit it. The best example is children. They are so innocent and truthful because they don't play. They are whole. We are not whole anymore - we are like the fragments of the broken window and just try to reassure ourelves that we adapt. It's not adapting - it's losing identity!!!
Good evening! Yes, yes! It so is complex to live playing roles. But we cannot avoid it... Our life puts us in frameworks. We should live only observing the rules...and these rules force us to play different roles in different situations - we cannot struggle with it....I find Montgomery’s quotation really fascinating – “Children are so innocent and truthful because they don't play.” Only during this period of our life we don’t play roles. It is normal for adults to be different. Otherwise you will not survive in our world!
Dear Montgomery..I'm afraid, you misapprehend the sense of the words "play roles". Using these words we don't mean "act like actors"...We are talking about various reactions of people in different situations. To my mind we just can't conduct ourselves the same way everytime and everywhere..It's just impossible..Don't you think so?
Dear Onyx, I am afraid it's you who misunderstands the meaning of the expression play roles. It's not different reactions to various situations it's different people that we become when we are in different situations.
And if surviving in our world as Shikidim said means playing roles, then I'd better not succeed, but remain myself.
Moreover when I read your it's just the rules of our society, I remember the words from the "Catcher" (not an exact quatation, though) - game, my ass, only hotshot guys can win and for the rest of us there is no game at all
I completely agree with Montgomery that playing different roles in lifi with different people isn't right. because on the one hend if you play not yourself, but other role, people, with whom you play it, like your double and connect with your double.And they they think thet your mask it is you original and if ones your original fase opened, it would be biiiiiig problem for that people.On the othe other hend if you have a mask it means you always have to lie.not necessarily word lie. mask itself is already lie.
conclusion- it's esier to be yourself and not to have a masks...of cauwe some times we have to dress mask to approach to the situation...but I don't think that it have to be always..."be easier and people will be pulled to you"...)
People usually behave differnetly in different situation. The more expressive persons act according to their mood that makes their behaviour and character unpredictable for others and for them as well. It is normal situation i think. But i am sure that despite everything each person must have his personal opinion and not change it.
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